Summer days found school-aged me trolling library shelves for reads. Drawn to titles, authors, and book covers, I nabbed one after another, silently counting (it was a library, after all, SHHHH!) up to my check-out limit. I ferried the stack to the librarian’s desk, where each book was stamped with the return date, sorted by size—large to small—and slid across the desk into my waiting hands. Dropping the stash into my bike basket, I pedaled home, grabbed an apple and Book 1 on my “Must Read” list, and set out in search of a shade tree.
Those summers, leaning against a tree, I traveled the world, discovered folk takes and traditions of other cultures, dived sea depths and rocketed into space. I walked alongside history’s giants and stared up at a blade of grass through the eyes of an insect. I was free to choose and to read whatever peaked my interest. The only exception was when my mother nixed fairy tales for a time, because I was reading the Grimms brothers and Hans Christian Andersen’s more grisly tales and having nightmares. The magic of those tales stayed with me, however, and I revisited them, sans nightmares, in later years.
No question: child development and temperament must be considered in a child’s reading material. My mother served me well in saying, “not now.” But “not now” is a far cry from depriving the child of even knowing a book exists. The first choice comes from love and hope. The second from control and repression.
That’s why we’re hosting our Banned Book Speakeasy. Just as, during prohibition, legislators banned alcohol in an attempt to force their morality on others, now, across our country, laws are being passed to ban books that some people, and the politicians who wish to please them, find offensive. At A Spacious Place, we stand with authors speaking their truth in print, and with readers who open their minds to read that truth. Sometimes that truth connects with our personal story, and that is a gift. Sometimes that truth is not ours and gives us the opportunity to clarify what we believe and why. That, too, is a gift, though a grittier one.
We stand against laws that seek to rein in or destroy art; we stand for the freedom to read. We hope you’ll join us as we gather at the Speakeasy to open a book and open our minds.
What are your favorite reading memories? What are your thoughts on book freedom and book banning? Share your thoughts with us at contact@aspaciousplace.com.
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Soul & Solace: Let’s Talk About Sex
My high-school health teacher assigned me a research project on abortion. Surprising, right, for a seventies military school in the deep south? Still, that was the assignment, and as research material, she suggested what was commonly known as the “little yellow book” and whose actual title was “Everything You Always Wanted to Know About Sex: But Were Afraid to Ask.” I relayed the information to my mother and was met with pursed lips and a gaze of steel. Nevertheless, she purchased the book and placed it into my hands with a command as from on high: “Only read the chapter on abortion. Do NOT read any more of that…thing.”
I, of course, read the book cover to cover: a fact my mother knew and expressed disgust about. Since that time, I’ve made healthy, informed decisions about sex due, in part, to the little yellow book, and also, in part, to my upbringing.
So why am I sharing this pearl from my days of youth? Two reasons, really: both tied to choice. First relates to parenting. Parents ought not be the sole selectors of their children’s reads. Why? Because 1) caring parents are hard-wired to protect their offspring (to my mother’s mind, knowing about sex would lead to acting on that knowledge and down the slippery slope I would go), and, while protection is necessary, so is challenge. Youth need to read books that stretch their perspectives, that trouble their preconceptions, that fire their imaginations, and that show them their potential: for good or ill. Also, 2) parents are people, and, as such, have limits. That’s why we need pediatricians, school teachers, and librarians. At some point, we parents need to trust these professionals to care about, and to care for, our children.
The second reason is tied to recent legislation restricting choice, including Texas’ book-banning legislation (largely focused on books about race and gender), which purports to support parents’ rights.
Perhaps the rights of some hand-picked parents. Certainly, not all parents. But even so, the point is not parents’ rights: it is children’s rights. The right to learn what will feed their souls. The right to find in the library a wealth and diversity of readings to blow their minds with possibility. Because, in the end, children of caring parents will, in turn, care what their parents believe. A book on the banned list could well be a key that opens a deep family conversation about values and choices. Let’s not be so fearful of another’s perspective that we shut down the possibility of such teachable moments. Does banning The Cider House Rules lead a woman to make compassionate, informed choices? Or a man to respect the consequences of his desire for the woman—or young girl—involved? Whatever our position on abortion, or any other ethical conundrum, does denying knowledge of differing perspectives result in healthy, informed choice for anyone?
Choices that restrict the choices of others carry serious consequences: not made any less serious because the choice-restrictors refuse to see them.
I offer this pearl from my teen years as a plea: let us, as creative people, take a stand for books, for knowledge, for imagination, for selfhood—and for choice itself. We stand at a crossroads in this nation. Let‘s together choose the path that leads to choice for all.
What are your thoughts on choice, on reading, on parenting? We would love to hear from you. Share your Soul & Solace thoughts at contact@aspaciousplace.com.
Want more info on book bans? Check out https://ilovelibraries.org/ and mark your calendars for this year’s Banned Books Week: September 18-25, 2022 (https://bannedbooksweek.org/).
To support “a world in which all children can see themselves in the pages of a book,” check out We Need Diverse Books: https://diversebooks.org/.
Concerned about other restrictions on our choices and rights? The ACLU and Southern Poverty Law Center work to defend the liberties of all U.S. Americans and to combat injustice and hatred. You can learn more about them at https://www.aclu.org/ and https://www.splcenter.org/ , respectively.